Are you comfortable being yourself in all situations?

If you’re like most people, you’re 90% yourself when you’re with close friends, 50% yourself with casual acquaintances, and hide yourself from strangers.

Being your true self in all settings and situations is scary, but ultimately empowering and relaxing. The way you view yourself is either uplifting or a hindrance.

Imagine the relief you’ll experience.

You no longer have to worry about the perceptions of others. You can just be yourself and feel satisfied with that, even amongst strangers or those that judge.

Be Yourself And Take Back Control Of Your Life.

Meditation quiets the part of you that judges and labels everything around you. You can gain some insight into the real you by meditating regularly. Clearing your thoughts. Gain clarity in your thoughts.

Use the time to examine areas in your life that feel inauthentic. When and where do you feel like you’re lacking authenticity?

Often it will be during interactions with strangers, first dates, new social settings, work and more formal occasions.

A lack of authenticity can also occur when you spend time with your parents and siblings - it did with me.

Exposure to the thoughts and attached emotions of the need to fit in, to not disagree, your obligation of being the child and to not rock the boat or try to change their ways. 

Think about the times you’re inauthentic and ask yourself why.

When you’re truthful, you reveal yourself. Be honest about your mistakes and shortcomings.

Give your opinions truthfully if it won’t hurt anyone.

Be Unique

The true you isn’t exactly like everyone else.

What music do you listen to when you’re alone? Do you dance to it?

How do you dress?

Do you keep the unique parts to yourself or are you willing to share them with the world?

Identify and Remove

Rocky road ice cream or my favourite... chocolate? Not talking about the random bowl, it's the binge eating.

Mindless internet surfing or endlessly scrolling social media watching incremental 30 second videos of other people's lives.

Using crutches to deal with boredom, anxiety or uncertainty is blocking you from seeing the truth.

Examine what is the purpose of a particular crutch? Stop using it and see for yourself.

Spend your time on things you enjoy.

What do you really enjoy? Do you end up going places just so you fit in?

Would you rather be taking dancing lessons?

Spend your free time on the things that you’re most passionate about. Activities that fuel your soul. That resonate just with you.

Do one thing you want to do but are afraid to try.

The people at the office might laugh if you take up the electric guitar or drums, or take up acting classes.

However, secretly, they’ll be jealous that you have the nerve to do something unconventional. To follow your passion. That you've made the time just for you. 

Look around... are people you know just content with what they're doing?  Are they bored?

You can rise above all of that.

An indoor environment is unnatural. The air is heated or cooled. The lighting is artificial.

You can’t see the sun, hear the birds, or feel the grass beneath your feet.

Get yourself into a more natural environment and you’ll find it easier to be authentic.

Strengthen Your Boundaries.

Where your boundaries are weak, your true self is being smothered.

These are the places we allow others to determine the rules and set the frame. You’ll know these places by the high amounts of energy they drain from you.

Final Thoughts

Overcome your need to fit in and impress others.

No matter what you do, some people will be impressed and others won’t. Why worry about it?

You’re an amazing person.

Allow yourself to be that person each and every day.


Helen Taylor
Helen Taylor

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